Why do we girls all put ourselves through the same shit all the time? We see our friends go through all this pain and suffering because of guys, yet when its our turn we make the same mistakes. It's not that we are weak or pathetic, in fact I think it makes us stronger, as one of my roomies says to put your heart, body, and soul (not just body) into a relationship shows true strength because not everyone is able to do that or to handle it.
Us girls seem to do two crappy things to ourselves because of boys:
1) Ditch our friends for our current boy toy. When it happens to you it sucks and you are pissed, yet the next minute, the hot boy you like invites you out on a night you have plans with your roomies, and you cancel, because you tell yourself "I will always have a chance to spend time with my roomies, but this chance may not come along for awhile." You put that boy ahead of people who have always been there for you. Yet your roomies are disappointed and hurt that you chose a boy over them, and later you regret it, you realize if the boy really wanted you he would be patient and wait til you are available. Its just that we always think we have to make a choice, friends or boyfriend, when its not a choice, both can exist in your life at the same time, its finding the right balance that takes talent.
2) Go after the emotionally unavailable boy. It's not necessarily the idea of the challenge, its more about the idea that you could be the one to get inside him, making you the only one. However, just because you invest yourself in him does not mean he has to return the favor, and you keep telling yourself "the more I put into him, the more he will see and return it," which isn't necessarily true.
Ok I know this all sounds so negative, but the first ruins friendships and the second breaks hearts, both of which I've seen recently, both of which I've been through. The question is why does this happen? And not only why does it happen, but why does it happen again and again? time after time?
Us girls seem to do two crappy things to ourselves because of boys:
1) Ditch our friends for our current boy toy. When it happens to you it sucks and you are pissed, yet the next minute, the hot boy you like invites you out on a night you have plans with your roomies, and you cancel, because you tell yourself "I will always have a chance to spend time with my roomies, but this chance may not come along for awhile." You put that boy ahead of people who have always been there for you. Yet your roomies are disappointed and hurt that you chose a boy over them, and later you regret it, you realize if the boy really wanted you he would be patient and wait til you are available. Its just that we always think we have to make a choice, friends or boyfriend, when its not a choice, both can exist in your life at the same time, its finding the right balance that takes talent.
2) Go after the emotionally unavailable boy. It's not necessarily the idea of the challenge, its more about the idea that you could be the one to get inside him, making you the only one. However, just because you invest yourself in him does not mean he has to return the favor, and you keep telling yourself "the more I put into him, the more he will see and return it," which isn't necessarily true.
Ok I know this all sounds so negative, but the first ruins friendships and the second breaks hearts, both of which I've seen recently, both of which I've been through. The question is why does this happen? And not only why does it happen, but why does it happen again and again? time after time?
