i realized yesterday i don't know how to fight with people. bottom line is i hate fighting, i think its a waste of time and doesn't get anyone anywhere. in fact i think it makes things worse. i like to discuss things and if it comes to a point where we will not see eye to eye on whatever the issue is that we should agree to disagree.

yesterday my aunt and i got in this fight. i thought we were just discussing and debating something that we had opposite positions on and then out of nowhere comes the personal attack. she said that if i was arguing what i was arguing then that meant i don't love my family AND i shouldn't be in law school because i will be a horrible lawyer so law school is a waste of time. i said nothing after that, because i knew anything i would say would be fucked up and mean. and a low blow. it would bring me to her level of fighting dirty and personal attacks and i don't want to go there. but maybe i should. everyone else seems to. and everyone else does it to me, so why do i feel bad doing it back? i guess i still don't see it as necessary. why can't people who don't agree on things just share their points of view with each other? why does someone always have to "win"? because in fights there are no winners, even if you win the argument what do you really get out of it?